I came accross this article recently thorough email or on net while browsing and when I shared it the recepient asked my view point on this so...... here it goes first the article and then my reply
For all girls to make their day
and to all guys who can handle it
This is a beautiful article:
The woman in your life...very well expressed!!!!!!!!!!!
Tomorrow you may get a working woman, but you should marry her with these facts as well.
Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;
One, who has dreams and aspirations just as
you have because she is as human as you are;
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your Sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family ,name
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen
One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain;
to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;
One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply
Because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise.
One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;
One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important, relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;
One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.
But not many guys understand this......
Please appreciate "HER"
My Reply to it was:
The context of the text is very much relevant to current time.
I have been always accused of being feminist so my comment starts from the point she should not ask for respect but it should be default and a well deserved.
A girl should command respect because of her own virtue.
These things need to be discussed and implement while building up of relation.
There is a major factor called parents on both sides, it needs to be considered as how they pitch in and behave about same will also drive matter alot.
And it is a girl’s duty to make her husband/boyfriend/in-laws understand that she is also a person with her own life style like her counterpart husband and hence should be appreciated and respected.
Unjust initial adjustment many times leads to compromises and suppression of feelings which explode in due course resulting in a situation beyond recovery. Hence timely clarifications and discussions help.
I keep on telling one thing to many quiet often with different context.
तुम्ही जर दबला तर लोक तुम्हाला रस्त्यातल्या दगडा प्रमाणे नेहमी दाबतच जातील
तुम्ही पण बोचू शकता याची जर जाणीव असेल तर समोरचा पण काळजी घेतो
It’s simply making others realize that you too have feelings.
